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If you are patient when you suffer for doing what is good, this is a grace before God. For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example that you should follow in his footsteps.” (I Peter 2:21)

And yet patience, also referred in the Bible as endurance, is never easy. When a nonbeliever questions how a good God could allow suffering, I like to respond, “If Jesus had  to suffer an agonizing death on a cross so you could be saved, why should we think that we won’t have to endure hardships, let alone one that awful?”

Whether it’s the sudden death of a loved one, the loss of a job or home or something else, chances are we have all been through hardship at one time or another. It’s just a matter of the circumstances. In my case, it was often about unemployment. I was out of work for nearly a year more than 20 years ago, but I still remember this period like it was yesterday. My faith was weak at the time, so I worried more than I prayed.

Sick to death of the uncertainty and pit in my stomach  that came with it, I finally got smart and started reading my Bible. Proverbs 3: 5-6 and Jeremiah 29:11 proved extremely helpful and still do today. (I quoted them in my book Climbing out of Darkness: A Personal Journey into Mental Wellness, so I won’t do so here.)

Suffice it to say, I memorized both passages and pondered on them often. Whether I was alone at home, driving, or in a store, I would keep thinking about these verses and the more I did, the more I believed them. Before I knew it, I felt an incredible peace come over me even  though I was still out of work and with no job prospects in sight!

(This was also when I realized why God was making me wait for a new job – because being diagnosed with depression and anxiety made my realize it was my disorders that were causing the problems more than the jobs themselves).

I wanted “a job,” God showed me much more, how to come to grips with, and then how to overcome a mental health challenge (thanks in large part to Fresh Hope). I can look back on this period and know that, whatever the circumstances are now, God indeed is in control, and it’s just a matter of waiting on His timing to reveal the answer. Oh, and eight months’ unemployment was a piece of cake compared  to the 14 years I spent with my next employer! Talk about answered prayers!

If you’re fortunate enough to not have a vexing problem in your life, there are still things in life that test our patience. One of them is the different seasons. December is already a difficult time of year for those of us who live in the Upper Midwest with its snow, frigid cold, and fewer daylight hours. Getting laid off when I did, in the middle of winter made a bad situation worse.

While patience has always been a virtue, I dare say advice on this topic is more crucial than ever in today’s rush-rush, nonstop world. It wasn’t always like that. When I was young, you had to wait for the afternoon newspaper or evening news to learn what was going on in the world. Today, news is 24/7, even with our phones, when we are out and about.

But today’s hectic society doesn’t just involve news and scrolling constantly on our phones. Shopping in a brick-and-mortar store is becoming a thing of the past. We order nearly everything online and then expect next-day delivery. Even drive-thru restaurants don’t even seem fast enough, as many people will order ahead of time on an app. It seems no one can wait for anything anymore! And don’t be surprised if the driver behind you honks his horn if it takes more than five seconds for you to proceed on a green light.

I don’t understand self-checkouts either. I am almost never in such a hurry that I’ll choose to check myself out. Isn’t that what the employees are supposed to do? Waiting in line isn’t often as bad as it looks, but we think it is because we’re always in a rushed state of mind.

In other words, the worldly way of responding to impatience involves stress, anger, and frustation. Since God did not intend for us to live our lives at a breakneck pace, the result is the detrimental effect that anxiety and worry is having on our society’s mental health.

Patience on the other hand, teaches self-control, empathy, and maintaining a positive attitude. This is also discussed in the fruits of the spirit in Galatians. Even better, we know that as Christians, we don’t have to do this on our own. We have the Lord’s strength to respond with complete trust in the Father’s purpose and power.

Maybe Romans 8:28 says it best. It states that “all things God work together for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

The “all things” in this instance, include the things that try our patience.  So the next time regardless if it’s being caught in a traffic jam, ridiculed in public, or my particular vice, computer problems – remember Romans doesn’t say that it’s just the “good things” that work together for our benefit but all things. I need to read and then reread, this paragraph the next time my PC locks up!

In conclusion, while patience takes time, it is always worth the effort.

Mike Jacquart belongs to a Fresh Hope support group in Wisconsin. A retired magazine editor, Mike enjoys sharing his story of “pushing through” on his book, blog posts, podcasts, and other presentations. For more information, contact him at michaeljacquart56@gmail.com.

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It All Adds Up

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope

Ever have “one of those days?” The kind where the problems – the tiny, insignificant things that don’t go right – well, they just pile up on top of each other. It’s not one big thing; it’s a string of little disappointments.They seem too small to mention individually, but together, they leave me emotionally worn thin. 

I bump the water, which spills the coffee grounds and the mug all over the counter, dripping down the side – that 1” between the cupboard and the fridge. I drop the book – 3 times! – as I’m trying to grab it off the table. The light bulb over the bathroom sink is burned out, so I can’t see my hairstyle or my makeup or if my shirt looks good with these pants, and I’m already running 5 minutes late. The garage door won’t close when I push the remote. I hit every red light on the way to work. Someone is parked in my assigned spot. And it’s not even 9 am yet!

None of these are tragedies. But somehow, they pile up emotionally. It’s like: 

  • Drip, drip, drip. 
  • Death by a thousand cuts.
  • The straw that broke the camel’s back.
  • One thing after another.
  • The hits just keep coming.
  • Running on fumes.
  • Taking on water.

Sometimes, what exhausts us isn’t one catastrophic event. It’s dozens of tiny disappointments, all at the same time. And for those of us carrying anxiety, depression, grief or exhaustion, these little frustrations rarely stay little for long. Our discouragements multiply quickly. But thankfully, so does grace. 

And maybe that’s why I’ve been thinking about the little boy who offered Jesus five loaves and two fish. I wonder if he almost stayed quiet. Because honestly, his offering was ridiculously small compared to the need. Too little. Too insignificant to matter. And yet somehow, in Jesus’ hands, it became more than enough. Baskets of food left over.

I realize how often life feels like that. Like all I have to offer is a string of disappointments, things that didn’t go right, didn’t go according to my plan. What can I offer God, when all I feel is discouragement? Can He do anything with the little that I have to offer? When I’m tired, and weary, and feeling pulled in several directions at once? When my “To-Do List” is too long to do? 

God has always worked through offerings that looked insufficient. A sling and a stone. Five loaves and two fish. A mustard seed. A widow’s tiny offering. Ordinary fisherman. Again and again, Scripture reminds us that God multiplies what we surrender, no matter how small. 

I remember many years ago, when I was in and out of depressive episodes (this happened to me for over 10 years), arriving at church for the Depression Support Group that I was to lead that night. I saw the Small Groups Leader, and she asked how I was doing. I told her I really didn’t know how to lead our small group that evening, although I had a topic prepared. 

I had started feeling low a few days earlier, and could tell that I was headed into another depression. “How am I supposed to lead the group when I feel like this? I’m not in a good head-space. I’m struggling.” Her advice? “Lead from where you are. Tell the group.” 

I wondered if that was such a good plan – after all, shouldn’t I be completely together, mentally and emotionally? What would the group think if they knew I was weak, insufficient, inadequate? But I followed her wisdom. I opened the meeting in prayer, and then, as always, said we would go around and share how we were doing this week. I began, “I’m not feeling great right now, and I think that I’m headed into another depressive episode.” 

The group’s response was overwhelming – I still get goosebumps when I think about it. They rallied around me – they were kind and empathetic and encouraging. They prayed for me. They handed me tissues! They understood – completely – and they told me that they appreciated that I was willing to be vulnerable and honest with them. It was one of our best meetings, with everyone being open and honest, sharing from their hearts. 

God has big plans, but He wants to use us in the process. And we are not big. We are little and inadequate and flawed and human! God knows our weakness…He created us! And God is all knowing – He is intimately aware of what we’re facing, what our circumstances are, and even how we’re feeling about it. And He chooses to use us anyway.

I Corinthians 1:27: Instead, God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And he chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10: Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast in my weakness, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

2 Corinthians 4:7: We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves.

Isaiah 40:29: He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless. 

Psalm 103:13-14: The LORD is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.

Hebrews 4:15-16: This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.

Romans 8:26-27: And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.

Some days, all I seem to have are a few loaves, a couple of fish, and a tired heart. But maybe God has always been comfortable working with “not enough.” So I will give Him my “not enough,” and watch as He multiplies it exponentially for His glory and His kingdom.

Peggy has been involved with Fresh Hope as a Group Facilitator for over 8 years and as the Hope Coach Trainer for over 6 years. She can be reached at peggy@freshhope.us.

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Peer support is now backed by more research than almost any other mental health intervention. But the numbers only tell part of the story. What really changes everything is sitting across from someone who has been where you are — and made it through.

 

I am not generalized anxiety. You are not depression. You are not your diagnosis. You are a son, a daughter of God. You are chosen by God. And that is what this family reminds you — there is hope.

— Cintia, 32 — Ecuador, living with generalized anxiety

Fresh Hope gives you insight into not only your diagnosis, but how to change your behaviors and your attitudes — and I think that’s truly important.

— Anonymous — United States

 

Two voices. Two countries. One shared discovery: that what changed everything was not a new medication, not a more accurate diagnosis, not a better insurance plan. It was a community of people who understood — who could look them in the eye and say: I know. I have been there. And there is a way through.

This is the promise at the heart of the peer support model. And it is now one of the most well-documented interventions in all of mental health research.

 

The Science of Being Understood

The Sapien Labs Global Mind Health Report identifies social connection quality — not just quantity — as one of the strongest predictors of mental wellbeing. Having people in your life is not enough. Having people who genuinely understand your experience, who do not minimize it or spiritualize it away, who stay present through the hard seasons — that is what the data consistently points to as protective.

Peer support is the formal application of this principle. It brings together people who share a common experience — in Fresh Hope’s case, those living with a mental health diagnosis and their loved ones — and creates structured space for mutual encouragement, practical wisdom, and shared hope.

 

= CBT Research comparing peer support to cognitive behavioral therapy finds equivalent outcomes across multiple mental health conditions — including depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder.

 

52% Of Fresh Hope participants who previously experienced suicidal ideation report complete resolution — no longer suicidal and no longer experiencing ideation.

 

96% Of weekly Fresh Hope participants report increased hope — the single most important predictor of long-term recovery outcomes according to peer support research.

 

That 52% suicidality resolution figure is not a small number. It represents real people — people who once believed, like Gabriela in Blog 4, that there was no solution — who found their way to the other side of that darkness. And the instrument of their change was not primarily clinical. It was relational. It was someone who understood.

 

You Are Not Your Diagnosis

Of all the things that Fresh Hope offers, perhaps the most transformative is this: the direct, repeated, community-affirmed declaration that a person is more than their condition.

Cintia’s testimony is one of the clearest expressions of this in the entire collection. She has generalized anxiety disorder. She was told, by the culture around her and perhaps by the voice inside her head, that this made her weak. That having a diagnosis meant something was fundamentally wrong with her — not just medically, but spiritually, as a person.

Fresh Hope is a ministry that teaches you, through the Word of God, that we are not weak — that we are people who need the Lord, and that the Lord has given wisdom to earthly doctors, but has also given His Word. Fresh Hope reminded me that I am not alone, that you can get out of this situation, and that there is hope.

— Cintia, Ecuador

 

Notice the movement in Cintia’s testimony: from shame to identity. From “I thought having anxiety made me a weak person” to “I am not generalized anxiety — I am a daughter of God.” This is not a minor shift in self-perception. It is a fundamental reorientation of identity that changes how a person engages with their treatment, their relationships, and their future.

The peer support research calls this “identity reconstruction” — one of the core mechanisms by which peer support produces better outcomes than clinical care alone. When people in a peer community model recovered, purposeful identity, it gives those still in the struggle a vision of what is possible for them.

 

You are NOT

your diagnosis

You are NOT

your depression

You ARE

a child of God

 

This three-part declaration — embedded in Cintia’s testimony and in the culture of every Fresh Hope group — is not motivational language. It is a theological corrective to one of the most damaging lies that mental illness tells: that you are your condition, that your diagnosis is your identity, that the broken season defines the whole story.

 

Insight That Changes Behavior

The voice from the United States adds a dimension that is easy to overlook: Fresh Hope does not only offer emotional support. It offers insight — the practical, lived-experience wisdom that helps people understand not just their diagnosis, but what to do with it.

Fresh Hope gives you insight into not only your diagnosis, but how to change your behaviors and your attitudes — and I think that’s truly important.

— Anonymous, United States

 

This is a crucial distinction. Many support groups offer solidarity — a place to share pain and feel less alone. Fresh Hope offers that, and more: a framework for understanding the condition, tools for managing it, and accountability for actually applying what has been learned. Recovery Principle III captures this directly.

FRESH HOPE RECOVERY PRINCIPLE III

My disorder can become an excuse. Therefore, I choose to believe I can live a full and rich life in spite of my disorder. I choose the support of people who will urge me to “push through”.  Together we do better than trying on our own. We will hold one another accountable for learning, growing, and choosing to push through in hope.

 

This principle names something uncomfortable: that even genuine suffering can sometimes become a reason to stop trying. The peer community creates the environment where that slide is gently, lovingly resisted. Not through judgment or pressure — Fresh Hope groups do not lecture or shame — but through the quiet testimony of people in the same room who are choosing, week after week, to push through.

The anonymous voice from the US points to this: behaviors change, attitudes shift. Not through willpower alone, but through insight applied in community. This is what distinguishes peer support from simple social connection — it is purposeful, structured, and oriented toward growth.

 

The Facilitator: A Living Proof

Every Fresh Hope group is led by a certified facilitator — someone who lives with a mental health challenge themselves, or who loves someone who does. This is not incidental to the model. It is the model.

The research on peer support consistently identifies the shared-experience credibility of the facilitator as one of the primary drivers of effectiveness. When someone says “you can get through this,” it lands differently depending on who is saying it. A clinician saying it is an expert opinion. A peer saying it — someone sitting across from you who has bipolar disorder type 1, or generalized anxiety, or depression, and who is living a purposeful, hopeful life — is a living proof.

This is what Cintia experienced. This is what Sergio found. This is what Norcángel offers when she tells a newly diagnosed person: there is hope, recovery is possible, you don’t have to walk this alone. She is not reading from a pamphlet. She is speaking from inside the story.

 

The Multiplication Effect

One of the most beautiful dimensions of the peer support model is what Principle VII describes: that sharing your story does not just help others. It helps you.

FRESH HOPE RECOVERY PRINCIPLE VII

At times, my mental health challenge has caused me to focus only on myself and my needs, leading me to believe the lie that I don’t have much to offer to others. Therefore, because focusing on others will help me grow, I choose to give back, sharing my story with others, that my past pain might provide insights for someone else’s journey to living well.  Together we recognize that sharing helps both us and others heal. Sharing helps us find our voice and becomes empowering as we see our pain redeemed by the Lord.

 

The act of becoming the person who understands — of moving from the one who needed help to the one who offers it — is itself a therapeutic process. It reframes suffering as something that has purpose. It transforms what felt like wasted years into a resource for someone else’s breakthrough. It is, in the deepest sense, redemption.

This is why Fresh Hope does not just offer support groups. It trains facilitators. It multiplies peer supporters. It turns people who were once in the deepest darkness into the light that guides others through. Every facilitator is a former participant. Every group is a potential trainer of future facilitators. The model scales not through budget increases but through transformed lives.

 

A Word to Anyone Who Thinks They Have Nothing to Offer

If you are in the middle of your own struggle right now — if the idea of one day helping someone else feels impossibly far away — we want to speak directly to Principle VII’s opening line: the lie that says you don’t have much to offer.

The research on peer support says otherwise. Your experience — the very thing you wish you had never gone through — is precisely what will make you credible to the next person who walks through the door of a Fresh Hope group. Your story is not a liability. It is your most valuable asset.

I am not generalized anxiety. You are not depression. You are not your diagnosis. You are a daughter of God. You are chosen by God.

— Cintia, Ecuador

 

Cintia said this to encourage others. But she was also speaking to herself — reinforcing, out loud, in community, the truth that her diagnosis had tried to take from her. The sharing helped her as much as it helped everyone listening.

That is the power of someone who understands. Not just what they give to others — but what they become in the giving.

 

NEXT IN THIS SERIES  |  BLOG 8 OF 10

You Are Not a Victim — You Are a Survivor With Purpose  Living with a mental health diagnosis can make it easy to be defined by the condition. Fresh Hope teaches something different: that the disorder does not get the last word. Natalia from Colombia and Sergio from Guatemala share what it looked like to stop being defined by their diagnosis — and start living with purpose.

 

ABOUT FRESH HOPE

Fresh Hope is an international network of Christian peer-support groups for those living with a mental health diagnosis and their loved ones. With 250+ weekly participants across 39+ countries, Fresh Hope integrates evidence-based recovery principles with faith-centered community. Find a group near you at freshhope.us

RESEARCH REFERENCE

Sapien Labs. Global Mind Health in 2025. February 2026. sapienlabs.org

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