Fresh Hope Blog

Stories and Insights for a Hope-Filled Life
Archives
Archives

Subscribe to Our Blog

Recent Posts

In a dark room, the absence of light can be scary, but even just a crack of light draws our eyes to it in anticipation and eases fear. In the dark night sky, the stars and moon demand our attention. In the light of the Gospel, Christ draws us to himself. We are not the light; the Light shines for our benefit.

From the Scriptures, God makes himself known. We can see the evidence of God around us by what he created, but only in the Scripture does Christ revel himself to us, hence faith is then created. Romans 10:17 says, “So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.”

Life can be difficult. Without my faith, I would crumble from hard times. But God gives me hope.

I like this Bible verse, Exodus 20:24b: “Wherever I cause my name to be honored, I will come to you and bless you.” It’s in his church where he’s remembered most. We receive his gifts of the Holy Spirt, mercy, grace and forgiveness. Numbers 6:24-27 says, “The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”  1 John 1:5 says, “This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.”

In John 3:12, Jesus speaks to Nicodemus about earthly and spiritual things. It’s as if Jesus is saying, “My dear Nicodemus, you’re not thinking deeply enough about the earthly things that you can see, so how can you understand spiritual things you can’t see?” Jesus often uses earthly things that are seen to describe the mysterious spiritual things that are unseen. I’ve learned to keep this lesson from Nicodemus in mind whenever I hear of earthy things described in Scripture.

Psalm 23 in whole is a favorite of mine, but in particular verse 4: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death…” When I think about a shadow, this means that something is blocking the light, casting a dark shadow. And if something is blocking the light, the dark shadow itself is actually evidence that there is light present. In the case of Psalm 23, the shadow is cast from being in this valley. It’s so low, it’s as dark as death; light is absent. But it also says I’m walking through it, so I need to move. It’s temporary and I have no need to fear, “Why?” The verse continues; “I will fear no evil, for you are with me.” There’s that crack of light: “for you are with me.” Christ continues to shine his light even when I’m stuck in that shadow. The light does not stop shining, though I can’t see it. Christ defeated death and darkness. He creates a path for us to follow, draws us into the light, and walks with us, so the darkness flees us.

Example: I was driving in my car and a thick puffy black dark cloud covered the sun. There was light all around me but the shadow of the cloud covered me while I was driving. I was in a darker place and couldn’t see as well. I could see the edge of the shadow, the light on the road ahead. Eventually the cloud moved (or maybe I moved far enough to get into full sunlight). The darkness fled from where I was; everything that was hidden by the darkness was now visible. The sun had never actually stopped shining – there was just a cloud blocking the light.

Death can be looked at as a temporal thing, but it’s also a spiritual thing. This is especially true when we think about Scripture where it talks about being dead in our sinful life and alive in a new life in Christ (see Col 2:13-14 or Eph 2:1-7).

Back to Psalm 23. Verse 4 continues: “your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” The rod of his Word corrects and defends me, and the staff guides and directs me. Why? To bring me comfort. If all I’m ever looking at is my old life, all the time, life can look pretty dark (the rod-correct and defend). When I look forward (the staff-guidance), I’m being guided into new life. Luke 9:62 says, “Jesus replied, ‘No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.’”  If we really believe our sins and failures are gone and covered by the blood of Christ, then we can say it’s behind us and we are guided into a new life which we now live. By faith we are born again by the Spirit. Something dead cannot make itself alive, but God can – all things are possible with God (see Matthew 19:26b).

My circumstances have nothing to do with what God does in me. I’m a new creation no matter what happens. And I’m able to walk a new direction in a new light.

Here’s another earthly truth, that points to a spiritual one. Back to John 3. Jesus continues in his discussion with Nicodemus, along the lines of, “You had nothing to do with being born here on earth – it was your mom and dad’s doing. Likewise, you are spiritually born of the Spirit by the Spirit. It’s not your  doing.” The evidence…The Holy Spirit gives us an epiphany: if I believe in Christ, then that means God drew me to himself by his Word. How wonderful! He loves me so much, to come after me to bring me to belief. In Matthew 18:12-14, Jesus tells the parable about how a man will leave 99 sheep to search for the 1 that wandered off. God searched the world and found someone like me. Then he carried me back into his flock and celebrated. This Isaiah prophecy then becomes true for me personally – Isaiah 9:2: “The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness, on them has light shone.”

In John 15:5, Jesus talks about vines and branches. Think about branches on a tree: how does the branch get its nutrients to form leaves or fruit? And Jesus continues, “apart from me you can do nothing.”

It’s very important to me to keep a practice of reading Gods Word daily. His Word is a light unto my path (see Psalm 119:105). He feeds me when I’m hungry. Gives me drink when I’m thirsty.  He takes me in when I have no one. Clothes or covers me when I’m exposed. Visits me when I’m isolated. Heals me from my sin. And loves me and you very much.

I pray you will look up the Scriptures posted here, and seek deeper ways to know God. Like a tree sucking up sap from its roots, so you can stay connected to Christ. I believe you will gain many blessings if you do. Christ’s disciples walked with him every day for 3 years on this earth and still didn’t understand everything. Don’t let that be an excuse. We are changed, growing, being guided and producing his fruit, one step at a time.

Do you believe or not? Jesus help my unbelief! Isaiah 55:10-11: “For as the rain and snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, making it bring forth and sprout, giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater, so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.”

God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.  Keep yourself in the light.

About the Author:

Bob has been an aircraft technician for over 40 years and has walked closely alongside loved ones as a caregiver. Through a series of dreams and life circumstances, God stirred in him a deep curiosity for Scripture. With the guidance of faithful people who pointed him in the right direction, Bob believes he discovered his purpose: to reveal God’s love, grace, mercy, and forgiveness to those—like himself—who don’t feel they deserve it. Bob can be contacted at: bvandyke123@gmail.com

Share this Post:

Darkness Flees from the Light

By Bob Van Dyke
Share this Post:

Between Cupid, candy, chocolate and flowers, Valentine’s Day is a very pleasant holiday for many of us. But what about those who do not have a spouse or significant other? What then?  It turns out it is possible to change our thinking about this holiday and still experience a positive day.

I did not get married until I was 34. As a result, Valentine’s Day was a bummer for me for a long  time. Each year it was much the same. Row upon row of red and white adorned boxes of candy, cardboard Cupids, and Valentine’s Day cards. Who needed this reminder when I did not have a girlfriend let alone a spouse? It was like salt in a wound. My father’s birthday was Feb. 14, so there was always some solace to this date. I also had a few BFFs (best friends forever) for a long time, and they helped. More on that later.

Don’t get me wrong: I still wasn’t nuts about Valentine’s Day. If I saw a Valentine message on TV, I would mute the volume or change the channel. Shopping at a retail outlet was more difficult, so I spent as little time in Valentine’s aisles as I could. It helped.  But not always.

I wrote about loneliness in my book, “Climbing out of Darkness: A Personal Journey into Mental Health.” Nearly 300 hundred miles from home, in a small town without friends, and no Internet back then, t was very bored and it was not unusual to cry myself  to sleep on weekends. I was so lonely that it did not bother me when my publisher dismissed me from my duties as editor of a small weekly newspaper. I was relieved, not distraught. Moving back move back home with friends and family was more important than the next stage of my career.

While being single doesn’t hold the stigma it used to, a lot of us still define happiness in life as being married with children. But unless you met your future wife or husband in high school, finding the right partner is often difficult. The rise of online dating and technology raises new concerns, such as someone pretending to be someone they’re not, or someone sharing your photos or personal information without your consent.

Obstacles remain even if you don’t frequent Facebook or Instagram. “It’s easy—if you don’t catch yourself—to believe that everyone is in this beautiful, magical relationship and you’re the only one alone,” wrote Chloe Carmichael in the online article, Why is Dating So Hard? She added, “In a survey, one-third of the single people who responded said that seeing these kinds of posts made them feel worse about themselves.” For more information, check out Why Is Dating So Hard?

There’s also the pressure we put on ourselves. “Is it my imagination? Is this person really that terrific?” or “I really like her. What if she isn’t nuts about me?” And so on.

Proverbs 3:5-6 states, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths.” In other words, trust God and be patient. This can be difficult, especially once we start moving into our late 20s and parents start wondering if you are ever going to get married. The Lord knows more than you do, who is the right person, and what is the right time. Recognize that until then, dating will often be like trying to put a square peg in a round hole. If the relationship isn’t meant to work, it won’t.

But before we can fully love someone else, we must fully love God and understand his love for us (Deuteronomy 6:4-5.)

Grasping  that realization certainly helps! I had some coworkers once who watched all of the awards shows on TV, and dreamt of being famous like them. I would think, “How sad. When you have a relationship with the author of the universe and know that He loves you, being rich and famous means nothing.”

But God also knew it was not good for Adam to be alone, and so he made Eve. It’s true some people are happy remaining single, and I know a few of them. But if you have a deep yearning to find a spouse, like I did, it’s reasonable to assume that God does have someone special in mind for you.

In fact, I met my future wife at a party while I was unemployed and living at home! (I was 31 at the time).

In the meantime, if you don’t have a spouse or significant oher, do what I did and still do in some ways: Take solace in good friendships, and have fun and spend time with them. Put another way, if you don’t have a Valentine in your life, there ‘s a good bet you do have a BFF (best friend forever) in your life. You may not have a “date,” but celebrate anyway and do something fun with a BFF on Feb. 14!

Happy Valentine’s Day to all.

Mike Jacquart belongs to a Fresh Hope support group. A retired magazine editor, Mike enjoys sharing his story of “pushing through” on blog posts, podcasts, and other presentations. For more information, contact him at michaeljacquart56@gmail.com.

Share this Post:

No Valentine? What about a BFF?

By Mike Jacquart
Share this Post:

Sanctuary

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope

I’ve recently been seeing a new Christian therapist. One of her areas of specialty is helping patients learn to deal with chronic pain, which speaks to an issue in my life lately. We’ve only met three times, but I already love working with her, and she’s guiding me as I learn how to live in this new reality…I want to do it in a way that honors God and where I remain kind and gentle and approachable, despite pain. And I am beginning to see parallels in living with a mental health challenge, and living with chronic pain. Let me explain.

At my last visit with my therapist, she asked me to reflect on what I did to manage my depression all those years ago, which was a 10+ year journey. As we talked, I shared with her that I used to go to a boat landing along a river, especially when I was overwhelmed with depression at work, but didn’t want to go home. I’d sit along the river in my car, often with the windows rolled down so that I could hear the wind in the trees and the birds singing, and I’d nap, or listen to music, or journal, or cry; sometimes, I’d call a friend. Just a safe place to be, with no one having expectations of me. I’d stay an hour, sometimes two, until it was time to go home and re-enter family life, make dinner, etc.

My therapist listened carefully, and then gave that place a word: sanctuary. And she asked me to explore the idea of sanctuary as it now relates to living with chronic pain. What made it safe? What did I like about it? How did it refresh me? And what if it’s not a place, necessarily? What would it look like to have a sanctuary in my current situation, that of living with ongoing pain?

I’ve journaled on this concept several times since she and I talked, and then the word “sanctuary” jumped off the page of the Bible this week. I was reading a morning devotional, and Psalm 18:6 NLT says, “But in my distress I cried out to the Lord; yes, I prayed to my God for help. He heard me from his sanctuary; my cry to him reached his ears.” 

Wow! God’s sanctuary! 

In some ways, this word is not a surprise. God’s Word talks about God in the Holy of Holies of the Tabernacle, on His throne, or in His temple. But that day, the word sanctuary seemed really significant. So I did some research on the Biblical meaning.

Miqdash is Hebrew for sanctuary – a holy place set apart for the dwelling of God’s presence and for worship. One definition goes on to say that it’s a sacred consecrated space where the divine meets the human. It’s the dwelling place of God. It symbolizes safety and refuge. And it’s important to understand this Biblical narrative of God’s desire to dwell among His people.

Wow, again! What an incredible reminder…God wants to dwell with us. In fact, once we’ve declared Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the Holy Spirit comes to dwell in us. We become the sanctuary; God dwells in me! The Bible says, “The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you.” Romans 8:11a NLT 

So now I want to apply this to me, to my circumstances. Again, what is sanctuary for me when I’m experiencing the back pain that requires I stop, wait, rest?

Some things that I can bring forward, from my depression sanctuary to finding sanctuary in pain:

  • I went to the boat landing without needing to improve.
  • I could stay as long as I needed.
  • I could choose: journal, pray, nap, cry, listen, or do nothing.
  • I was held by the environment, the sounds and sights, but I was not required to engage.
  • There was permission to be quiet.
  • There was no “fixing” agenda.

Sanctuary was never about changing my state; it was about being accompanied inside it. Jesus was with me at that boat landing, sitting in the car with me, not rushing me or pushing me to feel better. Just being with me.

Of course, the boat landing was a place outside myself. Chronic pain, like pain from a mental health issue (yours or that of someone you love) is internal. This can make it harder to define. How can I reframe this idea of sanctuary as a condition, not a destination?

The question changes. Instead of, “Where is my sanctuary when I’m hurting (physically or emotionally)?” I ask, “What tells my body and mind that I’m allowed to stop?”

For me, some of the answers I’ve journaled have to do with comfort items. I want to touch things that are soft, warm, supportive. Perhaps leaning back on pillows in a quiet room with my fleece blanket over my legs. 

There are also things I can say to myself. “I am not alone – God is holding me.” Or “It’s ok…take your time.” Or “Pausing now keeps this from becoming worse later.” (This one applies specifically to pain). And I’ve found it very important to remind myself from the truth from God’s Word…

  • ”I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5b
  • “I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:20b
  • “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Psalm 31:18

I’ll be honest. The hardest part of this is giving myself permission to stop, to not just wait until it passes, or push through the physical pain, but to rest until the pain subsides. Because it doesn’t always subside! So I have to adjust my thinking to allow myself to simply be held by God while the pain exists.

Perhaps the same can be true at times for mental health challenges. Yes, there are circumstances and times to “push through,” as we read every week in Tenet III, when we review the Recovery Principles in our Fresh Hope Groups. But that Tenet is also about not allowing our mental health challenge to become an excuse. We don’t want to “wallow in our excuses” – wallowing is not healthy. Perseverating, or mulling things over and over and over, is not healthy. But sometimes, sitting with our feelings, in a safe place, with safe people, is just what we need to do. Not to fix anything. But to acknowledge that we’re a little bit broken, that we are sad about that, and that we need others to sit with us. 

And in my opinion, this is something that Fresh Hope does really well. Because we’re peer-to-peer, we’re not giving advice, or telling each other what to do. We’re folks with lived experience! We get it! And we’ll sit with you, week after week, as you process your pain, as you come to a place of accepting your diagnosis or that of your loved one, as you navigate medications and/or healthy ways of thinking, and how to balance feelings with God’s truth, and even how to give back based on your own experiences. Fresh Hope can be a sanctuary. A group of people who care, who understand, and who will walk this mental health journey with you.  

I’m definitely still figuring out sanctuary as it relates to chronic pain. And I realize that some of what I described in my boat landing location doesn’t completely apply to mental health sanctuary, because I in no way want to encourage isolation! But there’s a difference between taking a time-out and isolating, and maybe that’s the point. Maybe I can learn how to live with pain, taking the time I need, but also engaging with people and life around me. And when it comes to my mental health, I know that Fresh Hope is a sanctuary for me. I’m encouraged, I’m supported, I’m prayed for, I’m comforted, I’m encouraged to look to Jesus for my hope. And ultimately, the Triune God is my sanctuary, and Fresh Hope reminds me of that each week.

Peggy has been involved with Fresh Hope as a Group Facilitator for over 8 years and as the Hope Coach Trainer for over 6 years. She can be reached at peggy@freshhope.us.

 

Share this Post:

Sanctuary

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope

Sanctuary

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope
Share this Post:

Explore All Posts

Sanctuary

I’ve recently been seeing a new Christian therapist. One of her areas of specialty is helping patients learn to deal with chronic pain, which speaks

Read More »

A Year of Favor

Have you ever messed up and thought, “How can God forgive me?” Can things change if you believe there is a heavy weight or a

Read More »

Finding Joy in 2026

 Almost 18 years ago, at my first appointment with my therapist, he asked me what I wanted to get out of our time together. I

Read More »

Getting Through the Holidays

Envision a Yule log burning in a fireplace, a brightly decorated Christmas tree, and children still in their pajamas happily tearing open their presents. A

Read More »

Finding Hope in Thanksgiving

As Thanksgiving approaches, we often hear reminders to “be thankful” and to “count our blessings.” For many, this season is filled with warmth, family gatherings,

Read More »

Small Changes, Big Results

After my wife received her mental health diagnosis, things got worse before they got better. Doctor visits were a bit of an issue for us,

Read More »

SIGN UP AT THE TOP RIGHT OF THE WEBSITE

Webinar "How Churches Can Facilitate Access to Mental Health Care"

Register Here to Watch Free!

Webinar "What I Wish My Pastor Knew About Mental Health"

Register Here to Watch Free!

Take the First Step in Starting Your Own
Fresh Hope Support Group

This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.
Name(Required)
Country(Required)

Please fill out this form so we can provide you with more details on how to start a Hope Coach Ministry.

Best time to contact

Enter your information and we will contact you about becoming a Hope Coach

Best time to contact

What Your Gift Can Do for
Offering Hope to the Hopeless

For every 32 cents given, we are able to offer hope for a week to one person who has a mental health challenge.

For every $16.64 given annually, we are able to offer hope for one year to one person.

Any amount you are able to give will help bring hope to those who desperately need it.

What type of donation would you like to make?

Enter your information to speak with a Hope Coach

Best time to contact

Thank you for taking the next step
towards hope.

We want to make sure that we send you information that will best serve your needs, so please take a few moments to fill in the information below.

(Please note that your privacy is our utmost concern. Fresh Hope will never sell your data and your information is kept strictly confidential)

Name

Address

Phone / Email

The following best describes me