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The connection between exercise and mental health has been well documented. During workouts the body releases multiple hormones that help improve mood, cognition, and concentration. For this reason, doctors recommend that people suffering from anxiety or depression pencil in plenty of gym time. I know exercise offers mental as well as physical benefits because I experienced positive cognitive changes many years before my eventual diagnosis of depression and ADHD.

That’s the good part. What is less known is how a physical ailment can also negatively affect mental health. I learned this lesson three years ago when an X-ray revealed a pinched nerve in my neck. I was thankful for a consultation in which a nurse practitioner asked how my physical pain was affecting my mental health. (She knew I was taking Wellbutrin and Prozac for depression and anxiety.) A mental health assessment revealed that I was indeed more depressed than I had been in a while. A change in dosage to my medication was suggested and it helped!

Unfortunately, Marina London (a mental health professional and editor of my book, Climbing out of Darkness: A Personal Journey into Mental Wellness) has observed that “medical professionals still rarely inquire about the emotional impact of a medical condition. This is true even when we are being treated for chronic pain, a diagnosis that is known to negatively affect mental wellbeing. It behooves us to take responsibility and ask for professional help when we are suffering.”

After receiving physical therapy for my pinched nerve, I was largely free from pain for a long time. However, I recently began experiencing extreme lower back pain that led to an MRI and subsequent diagnosis of peripheral nerve disease. I am currently undergoing treatment for this affliction.

It was this passion for new methods of treating chronic pain that led London and a fellow mental health clinician to begin offering Empowered Relief® a breakthrough, single-session training developed by pain psychologists at Stanford University. The evidence-based program teaches practical pain management skills that deliver real, lasting results. (Fresh Hope for Mental Health does not endorse Empowered Relief® but presents it as an example of research that supports the mind-body connection). For more information, visit www.painshifting.com or contact Marina London at marina@painshifting.com

Another psychoeducational and evidence-based pain-relief program is Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT). Interested individuals are invited to join an 8-week educational Healing Workshop to overcome the challenges of chronic pain and embrace recovery in an expertly facilitated, peer-supported setting. For more information, visit https://www.painreprocessingtherapy.com/healing-workshop/

Note, neither Empowered Relief nor PRT require participants to end other pain management techniques they may already be using such as PT, acupuncture, therapy, etc.

With over 76 million Baby Boomers in the US alone, programs like Empowered Relief and PRT are vital since additional changes to physical health can be expected as this group continues to age. As mentioned, it’s been too easy to overlook the depression or other mental suffering that may occur simultaneously.

I’ll offer a few examples. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for months since the pain in my lower back (and other areas) began. I don’t feel depressed some days, but it resurfaces on other occasions when pain increases so much it hurts to not only get out but get into bed. Trying to sleep in a chair at night is not easy so I just deal with the discomfort instead. With this ongoing yo-yo of different levels of pain, I have increasing empathy for those who have experienced physical pain for many months, if not years. It helps us to remember that others are hurting, on many occasions more than we are.

I don’t know if one is worse – the physical pain that begins limiting every day tasks or the depressive state that the average person doesn’t see but which is every bit as real. Walking and other forms of physical activity help lessen both forms of suffering, but it can be difficult to motivate yourself to exercise when you’re hurting from depression. In other words, both types of discomfort affect each other, something that I don’t think many physical therapists and other healthcare practitioners consider. As Marina explains, the mental/emotional aspect too often flies under the radar since more health care practitioners are trained to alleviate physical pain than they are to help manage underlying psychological factors.

I try my best to not dwell on my affliction. I do whatever I can physically. I take my dog for short walks, enjoy nature, work two hours a week collecting money and other light work at a recycling center in town and, of course, I enjoy writing – especially blog posts for Fresh Hope!

More importantly I remind myself that my pain is only temporary. God will one day wipe away all the tears from our eyes. As much as our troubles hurt, Christians know that at some point they will end. It is a comforting thought that helps. Secondly, there are scores of helpful passages in scripture that can provide hope and inspiration on particularly trying days. A favorite passage is Proverbs 3: 5-6: Trust in the Lord with all your heart. And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.

This verse offers a great deal of solace. Since God is the ultimate healer. I need not rely solely on medical professionals for encouragement. God alone knows what is going to work best for me!

Matthew 11: 28-29 might be best of all: Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Consider these verses or look up a different one. Remember that everyone experiences pain and despair in their lives. Fresh Hope support groups are a safe place to find encouragement and hope. As the saying goes, “You can’t keep doing things the same way and expect different results.”

Mike Jacquart belongs to a Fresh Hope support group and the author of “Climbing out of Darkness: A Personal Journey into Mental Wellness” with Marina London LCSW. It is available at https://www.amazon.com/Climbing-out-Darkness-Personal-Wellness/dp/B0BQ58KJH4

A retired magazine editor, Mike enjoys sharing his story of “pushing through” on blog posts, podcasts, and other presentations. For more information, contact him at michaeljacquart8@gmail.com.

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The Connection between Physical Pain and Mental Suffering

By Mike Jacquart
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How Depression Changed My Prayer Life

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope

I am so grateful for the heritage I have, as a child born to Christian parents, with a legacy of faith back through generations. I don’t really remember a time where Jesus wasn’t part of my life, though I publicly declared my faith in Jesus as my Savior through baptism when I was 8 years old. I was raised reading the Bible and praying, going to church and Sunday School, church camp and Vacation Bible School in the summers. I can say that I have been a Jesus-follower all of my life.

So, imagine my surprise, at age 44, when I was hit with a mental health diagnosis of depression. How in the world could this be? “Lord,” I prayed, “I have followed You all of my life. How is it that I can be so sad, feel so hopeless? I know Your truth, God, that my hope and joy are in You. But I have none. No hope. No joy. How is this possible?”

At my first appointment with my therapist, he asked what I wanted (to get out of therapy). I told him that I wanted my joy back.

The beginning of that mental health journey, into the darkness of depression and anxiety, was terrifying and confusing, especially at the start. It ultimately lasted for 10+ years, with depressive episodes coming and going over that time. And as they continued, I “got better at it.” What I mean is, once I became more familiar with the patterns, after several depressive episodes, and with the help of my therapist and husband to begin to recognize when one was coming, I was able to take appropriate steps to prepare, or at least try to prepare for it. And their severity was lessened, as I became more confident about what to expect, who to ask for help, etc.

But back to the beginning. When depression was dark and heavy, like a cold wet woolen blanket covering me, obscuring my view, slowing my movements and thoughts, pressing down down down. And I couldn’t feel God’s presence, couldn’t sense Him near me. He promised never to leave me. So where was He?

I cried out to Him, repeatedly. “Why, God? Why? Why am I going through this? What did I do to deserve this? Are You punishing me for something?” I searched my mind and memories for any unconfessed sin.

Nothing.

Then I began begging. “God! Please! Take this depression from me! Lift this dark cloud! Please, God!”

Nothing changed.

So I began to bargain. “Lord, don’t You see that I can’t serve You to the best of my ability in this state? How can I lead a Bible Study, or a prayer group, or even be an example to my co-workers, when I’m so lost in this sadness? I need Your healing so that I can be effective for You.”

Nothing.

Finally. Finally, it began to dawn on me. Or more likely, I began to sense the nudging of the Holy Spirit in me. I sensed it in my heart: “You’re asking the wrong question.”

It wasn’t a judgemental voice. It wasn’t condemning or harsh. It wasn’t even really a voice. More of a change in the direction of my thoughts. An aligning of my mind with God’s Word. His Holy Spirit talking to me.

“You’re asking the wrong question.”

“What is the right question, Lord? What am I supposed to say?”

“Ask Me about sanctification.”

Sanctification, according to my definition, is the process of being changed to look more like Jesus. It’s the pruning (John 15:2), the life circumstances, the situations that shape us, mold us, and conform us into the image of Christ.

So I began to ask, “Lord, how do You want to use this depression in my life to make me look more like Jesus?”

And, “What are You trying to teach me through this mental health experience, Lord?”

Finally, “Lord, please don’t waste this experience. Though I don’t see it now, I will trust You that You will use this – somehow – for Your glory, and my good.” (Romans 8:28)

At just the right time, because God’s timing is always perfect (and never as fast as I want it), He introduced me to Fresh Hope for Mental Health. And I saw that He had indeed answered that final prayer.

He has given me opportunities to serve Him, from my very own depression experience. I see now that He was with me all the time. My depression had blurred my vision. But that was me, not Him. He never left me. He walked with me. He sat with me. He caught all of my tears. And He began shaping my experiences into something He could use in the lives of others, even strengthening my own faith. And changing my prayer life.

I’ve stopped asking, “Why?” Instead I ask, “What do You want to do here, Lord?”

I often don’t get an answer to that question. In many ways, it’s actually more rhetorical. More of me expressing myself to Him, not that He’ll show me how He’s going to answer. These changes in prayer are actually changing me. I’m learning to surrender to Him. To depend on Him. To believe Him. To trust Him. And to let Him change me.

Peggy has been involved with Fresh Hope as a Group Facilitator for over 8 years and as the Hope Coach Trainer for over 6 years. She can be reached at peggy@freshhope.us.

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How Depression Changed My Prayer Life

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope

How Depression Changed My Prayer Life

By Peggy Rice, Hope Coach Trainer for Fresh Hope
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After my wife received her mental health diagnosis, things got worse before they got better.

Doctor visits were a bit of an issue for us, as we began to navigate this mental health journey. I love my wife, and wanted to know what was going on and how I could best help her. I would go in with her to her appointments, to listen to what was talked about. If I thought there was something to add that I had seen or heard, I would speak up. I even made a list of her meds for her to bring to doctors’ visits, to keep all the medical professionals informed of the changes.

She was taking a lot of medicines, so I would always put her meds in the container for her. I was deathly afraid she would take too much, mix them up or miss a dose. I watched her meds “like a hawk” and I thought I was helping.

Eventually a friend asked me to join a Fresh Hope group. My wife was not ready so I went by myself, hoping to get some answers to help her. And I found that the Fresh Hope group really helped me.

I did not realize it, but my own fears were part of the problem, including my fear of completely trusting God.

My wife had perceived my actions as me trying to control her. Once I understood how she was feeling, I began to let go of some of my fears about her abilities to manage her own mental health care.

After some prayer, I ended up letting her take control and get her medications ready by herself. (I would still occasionally check them.) After a while, I learned to trust her again. And with continued prayer I started trusting God!

Then I started to let her go to the doctors’ appointments by herself. I would just ask what they talked about instead of going with her every time. I did go in a couple of times – when meds were possibly going to be adjusted. But we talked about it beforehand, so she knew what to expect from me and she allowed me to come in with her.

I think mainly these two little changes were the beginning of us starting to heal. We eventually regained our trust for each other. Communication and learning about the disorder was a key. A willingness on my part to see that I needed to change what I was doing to help her and by letting her do her own part to get better was another. Eventually my fears were relieved, and my lack of trust was gone. The Bible says “Perfect love drives out fear.” 1 John 4:18.

So, my advice, based on my own experience, is to take a self-inventory of your inner fears that can be used as a personal indicator. How you react to your fears or insecurities might just be hurting or affecting those around you, those you love. But small changes can affect those relationships. You can only control what you do.

For those times when you are so fearful your loved one may hurt themselves, it is best to try and talk them into going to the hospital on their own. However, it’s ok to get help from others if necessary, because sometimes we overreact, and a second opinion might be needed. Another person, someone safe and trustworthy, might be able to listen when you can’t, when your concerns are making it hard to actually hear your loved one over your own fears.

The Fresh Hope group has taught me that a lot of little changes on both our parts can add up to big changes. These changes need to come from both the diagnosed person and the loved one. We can’t put all the blame on the person with the disorder.

I think it’s important for families to learn together. Some of us were brought up in very dysfunctional homes. But we can learn better ways of doing things from other people if we are willing. That’s where a Fresh Hope Support Group comes in: we can learn from others in similar situations.

Big problems can happen when we keep putting things off. Hard-to-deal-with issues can be like piling unwanted stuff on a shelf. Eventually, that shelf is going to get loaded up and heavy, and come crashing down. And then it can be even harder to pick up those pieces. So small changes now can make big differences in your life.

Life can get easier and more fulfilling with these small changes. In the middle of hectic confusion, it’s hard to find hope. What we need is a place to become aware of the real problems, so we can do our part to solve them. The Fresh Hope books, Fresh Hope: Living Well in Spite of a Mental Health Diagnosis and Holding to Hope are good places to start. Joining a Fresh Hope Support Group to learn to recognize the problem areas is a place where recovery can start and where you can begin to have hope again.

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