Stay Mentally and Emotionally Well at Christmas: Lessons from the Christmas Story

By Mark Soppit

The Christmas season, filled with joy, celebration, giving and receiving, can also bring stress and emotional challenges. Here are some lessons from the Christmas story we can think about to help us stay healthy and well.

Embracing Unexpected Changes:

The story of Mary and Joseph reminds us that life is full of unexpected changes. Imagine Mary, a young woman, receiving the angel Gabriel\’s startling announcement that she would give birth to the Savior (Luke 1:26-38). Such an unexpected event could easily overwhelm anyone, yet Mary’s response was of grace and acceptance: \”I am the Lord\’s servant…Let it be to me according to your word.\” Her simple statement of surrender and faith for her future put her life in God’s hands to watch over and protect her.

Learning to embrace the unexpected with faith and trust, rather than fear is a great skill to develop. It is developing a growth mindset, or one that is open to change, rather than a fixed one, which tends to be more fearful and rigid. At Christmas, plans may not always go as you want or expect — perhaps a family gathering is disrupted, or a gift fails to arrive on time. Handling these changes with patience and flexibility can reduce stress and allow us to see other blessings that may come by surprise.

Finding Peace in the Midst of Chaos:

The journey to Bethlehem was far from perfect for Mary and Joseph. Imagine traveling on foot and by donkey, only to find there was no room at the inn (Luke 2:4-7). Disappointment and discomfort marked Jesus\’ birth, yet it was in the simplicity of a manger that peace and miracle unfolded.

In our own lives, seeking peace amidst chaos is essential for emotional well-being. This may involve finding quiet moments to reflect, pray, or simply breathe amidst festive activities. Whether it\’s a brief walk, a moment of prayer, or quiet meditation on Scripture, these practices can anchor and calm our minds.

Cherishing Humble Moments:

The birth of Jesus in a humble stable is a profound reminder of the beauty in simplicity. The shepherds, ordinary people tending their flocks, were the first to receive the glorious news of Jesus’ birth and visit Him (Luke 2:8-20). They remind us that precious moments of connection and joy can be found in simplicity.

As we celebrate Christmas, focusing on humble, simple joys rather than material extravagance can deepen our sense of fulfillment. Cherishing time with loved ones, sharing stories, and giving thanks for each other can create more meaningful memories than most presents. Our family started doing a Secret Santa a number of years ago to remove the pressure to buy expensive presents and add an expectant excitement to our get together. By drawing names from a hat, no one knew who their gift-giver was, and by setting a limit that wasn’t excessive it forced us to be creative. It has brought a lot of fun and meaning to our family.

Practicing Generosity with Intent:

The wise men, or Magi, traveled many miles bearing gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh to honor Jesus (Matthew 2:1-12). Their journey demonstrated intentional generosity, a practice that brings joy both to the giver and receiver. God loves cheerful givers who decide in their heart what to give without being pressured to give more than they can afford (2 Corinthians 8-9).

During Christmas, we can practice generosity not just in material giving but also in spirit — through acts of kindness, words of encouragement, or volunteering to help those less fortunate. Intentional generosity blesses our communities and brings a meaningful sense of purpose and connection that supports emotional well-being.

Embracing Solitude and Reflection:

Before Jesus’ birth, Joseph demonstrates remarkable strength and reflection. Upon learning of Mary’s pregnancy, he planned to divorce her quietly. Yet, after an angelic visitation in a dream, he chose to stand by Mary (Matthew 1:18-24). Joseph\’s story highlights the importance of solitude and reflective decision-making. Sometimes decisions made in reaction don’t bring the best outcomes. Christmas has the ability to throw unexpected emotional curve balls into our lives.

In our busy lives, carving out time for solitude allows for reflection and clear thinking. This season, set aside moments to ponder life’s direction, your values, and blessings. This reflective practice can provide clarity and peace, preparing our hearts for the true spirit of Christmas.

Trusting in Divine Timing:

Throughout the Christmas narrative, divine timing plays a critical role. From the census calling Mary and Joseph to Bethlehem to the wise men following the star, we see perfect timing at work.

Trusting in divine timing can bring peace when we are unsure what the future holds. Knowing that God was always at work in the story of Jesus\’ birth is encouraging as we face uncertainties and challenges. He is involved in our lives, weaving our unique stories into His great plan.

In conclusion:

The Christmas story provides more than a narrative of Christ’s birth; it offers insights and inspiration for mental and emotional wellness. By embracing change, finding peace amidst chaos, cherishing simplicity, practicing generosity, engaging in reflection, and trusting divine timing, we can walk through this season with a joyful and peaceful heart.

I hope that we can all celebrate Christ’s birth with peace. If Christmas fills you with dread, may you know the closeness of Immanuel, God with us, filling your heart with love. When we calm our heart we have the opportunity to offer it afresh to the Light of the world, who came to deliver and save us. My favourite carol is “In the Bleak Midwinter,” largely because of the final verse. As I sing it, it reminds me that I may not have much, but I do have a heart I can give to Jesus in gratitude for what He has done.

“What can I give him,

poor as I am?

If I were a shepherd,

I would bring a lamb,

if I were a wise man

I would do my part,

yet what I can I give him,

give my heart.”

Mark lives in Niagara Falls, Canada with his wife, Janet. They have 5 children and a dog and enjoy exercise, public speaking, and motivating others. They have walked through many years of navigating mental illness and its effects on their marriage, their children, and pretty much every aspect of their lives. Through Living Well Coaching, their desire is to connect people to Jesus’ unlimited resources, and help them build resilient, healthy, and fruitful lives that glorify God and reach their full potential. You can follow them on social media: INSTAGRAM @livingwellcoaching; FACEBOOK livingwellcoachingniagara or their website Livingwellcoaching.ca