Handling Conflict

Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. Prov. 13:10

All of us are spending a lot of time at home.  For most of us, it means spending a lot of time with our loved ones.  This and the new restrictions and stresses we have in our lives due to the COVID-19 virus, can cause a breeding ground for conflict.  Conflict is inevitable and isn’t always bad.  In fact, it can help you learn new things, set boundaries and help you have more honest relationships.  Keep in mind the following the next time a conflict arises:

When you need to confront someone:

1. Don’t assume.  Don’t assume their intentions or that you fully understand the situation.  Pray!

2. Ask questions.   Find out facts.  Ask: “What was your intention in saying/doing that?”  “What did you mean when you said…”

3. State your perception; how you feel, rather than what they did.

4. Deal with one issue at a time.  The other person may bring up something that’s bothering them but stick on one subject.

When someone is confronting you:

1. Don’t take it personally.

2. Don’t counterattack.

3. Ask for time to give it objective reflection. Our natural tendency is to fight.

4. Set a time to re-discuss the issue.

5. Pray!  Honestly evaluate your actions.

Either way:

1. Keep focused on the big picture – the main issue.

2. Always respect the other person as a person.

3. Be solution oriented.

We pray these tips help you.  Remember, we are all in this together and God is with us!  

* Adapted from:  Widener, Chris. Don’t let conflict keep you from success. Beliefnet.com, August 30, 2010.