Knowing the Difference Between Feelings and Mood: Being Afraid to Feel Too Much
Knowing the difference between what I am feeling verses my mood has been extremely important for my recovery.
Everyone has moods and feelings. Yes, everyone! Even including your loved one who has no diagnosis.
It’s not that we should not have moods or feelings, but for those of us with bipolar disorder or depression (anxiety too) it is because of our brain malfunctioning that without recovery our moods can swing too drastically or get stuck and interrupt our daily living.
Early on in recovery, I was afraid to feel. It’s was as though I feared becoming too happy or too sad or too this or too that. But, to feel is human. Life is filled with feelings and unresolved feelings can affect our mood. So, knowing how to express my feelings, feel them and work through them was key to managing my mood.
In a word picture here’s what I believe is the difference between feelings and mood: your mood is like the regional climate and your feelings are the daily weather. Let’s say you live in Southern Florida. The climate is tropical. No freezing weather in the winter right? Wrong. I lived there one year and we had freezing rain and it was a mess! But, that didn’t change the climate of Florida.
Feelings are going to come and go. And when we handle them properly and work through them they do not have to alter our mood so drastically that they cause a total interruption to our lives. Something sad can happen on Monday and I might be sad about it for a time. But, that does not necessarily mean is one of depression. However, even as I am feeling sad, I do keep my “eye” on it lest it cause a drastic mood shift. Make sense?
How do see the difference? Are you afraid to feel?
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