{"id":5917,"date":"2017-08-06T06:01:44","date_gmt":"2017-08-06T12:01:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/pastorbrad.blog\/?p=2765"},"modified":"2017-08-06T06:01:44","modified_gmt":"2017-08-06T12:01:44","slug":"questions-to-ask-yourself-when-emotionally-stuck","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/freshhope.us\/es\/questions-to-ask-yourself-when-emotionally-stuck\/","title":{"rendered":"Questions to Ask Yourself When Emotionally Stuck"},"content":{"rendered":"

Now and then you and I will hit a \u201cspeed bump<\/em>\u201d in life. I define a \u201cspeed bump<\/em>\u201d as those times in which I am troubled by something that happens or by what someone has done that I continue to ruminate over and over in my mind. And due to the ruminating, I get emotionally stuck.<\/p>\n

Getting emotionally stuck happens to everyone; not just those of us with a mental health diagnosis. And when we get stuck emotionally; rehearsing something over and over it begins to impair our ability to move forward.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

For an extended period in my journey of learning to live well in spite of having bipolar disorder, I was an expert at hitting emotional speed bumps only to find myself in a ruminating rut of despair about something that someone said or did. It impaired my ability to move forward in learning how to live. That is until I learned a few key questions to ask myself when this would happen.<\/p>\n

The first key question I learned to ask myself: Is there anything I can do about what is bothering me?<\/strong> If the answer to this question is yes, then the next question that I ask myself is: What am I going do to resolve this issue? If there\u2019s something I can do to resolve it, then I have to decide to do it. Because if I am unwilling to do it, I will stay emotionally stuck.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s way to easy to remain emotionally stuck and continue to ruminate about something over and over. But, that only makes one emotionally toxic within a short time. So, choose not to allow myself any excuses for not doing what I can do to resolve an issue that is bothering me. If I am not willing to change what I can change then, I will never move forward. In fact, I\u2019ll get worse, not better.<\/p>\n

Now, if I ask myself the initial key question (Is there anything I can do about what is bothering me?) and the answer to the question is \u201cno.\u201d Then the next question I ask myself is:<\/strong> So, what I am going to do about accepting the fact that I can do nothing about this issue? So, instead of rehearsing how unfair someone has been or continues to be, what am I going to do to accept that there is nothing I can do about it. Otherwise, I can not only expect to stay stuck emotionally but, I understand that I am going to move backward emotionally. But because I refuse to be the victim of things that I cannot change I choose to accept these things, and I move forward. Forward in my journey of learning to live well in spite of having mental health diagnosis.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a bit of a challenge for you:<\/strong> if this post has irritated you, then you just might be emotionally stuck. If you want to lash out at me, telling me how I don\u2019t understand, then you most likely emotionally stuck. And if that\u2019s the case, what are you going to do about it? Or how are you doing to accept that there is nothing you can do about it?<\/p>\n

Here’s a short video about this topic or getting unstuck or as we call it “pushing through<\/em>” in Fresh Hope:<\/p>\n

[vimeo 134995270 w=640 h=360]<\/p>\n

Fresh Hope for Mental Health: Pushing Through\/Recovery Principle #3<\/a> from Brad Hoefs<\/a> on Vimeo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Staying stuck emotionally hurts you. Pain is inevitable in this life. But, suffering because one is stuck is optional. It\u2019s a choice. I choose to move forward. How about you?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You can check out Brad\u2019s podcast, \u201cFresh Hope for Mental Health\u201d at www.FreshHope4MentalHealth.com<\/a>\u00a0 \u00a0Brad also leads a weekly online Fresh Hope<\/a> support group. \u00a0You can participate by going to: www.FreshHopeMeeting.com\u00a0<\/a><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s way to easy to remain emotionally stuck and continue to ruminate about something over and over. But, that only makes one emotionally toxic within a short time. So, choose not to allow myself any excuses for not doing what I can do to resolve an issue that is bothering me. If I am not willing to change what I can change then, I will never move forward. 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